Celeb Watch: Gwyneth Paltrow, Eddie Murphy, Britney Spears

Marie Claire speculates that Gwneth Paltrow may be pregnant:

The New York Daily News is reporting that Paltrow was taken to the hospital by husband Chris Martin because she is pregnant with her third child. A source revealed to the paper that Paltrow spent time in the maternity wing of the hospital, and added, “They looked very serious. She looked upset. They went right past everyone and into the elevator. It seemed like they were expected.”

Eddie Murphy has split from his wife, Tracey Edmonds, after just two weeks of marriage, reports Marie Claire:

The reason for the break-up? According to sources in America, the honeymoon was “marred by screaming matches and arguments all week”.

In fact, even on the wedding day there were warning signs that all was not right. “Eddie started yelling at Tracey in front of people,” one guests told People magazine. “He did it on a few occasions and it was very embarrassing.”

Troubled star Britney Spears is also rumoured to be pregnant, as she was allegedly seen buying a home pregnancy test:

…the singer and her new boyfriend, 35-year-old paparazzo Adnan Ghalib, were photographed in a drug store in LA shopping for home pregnancy tests.

However, given the photographs were released by Ghalib’s own picture agency, some are already crying foul and believe the snaps might just be a juicy little earner for the couple and a crafty joke at the media’s expense.

Or at Britney’s expense. Hasn’t she been through enough recently?

Parental divorce is key factor in break-ups amongst their children

This may sound obvious to some, but a new study suggests that the rate of relational and marital breakup was higher amongst those whose parents had divorced.

The study looked at other factors, such as genetics or parental substance abuse, but found that divorce itself was a key factor that lead to the higher rate in children.

Brian D’Onofrio, assistant professor in the Department of Psychological and Brain Sciences at Indiana University Bloomington, said that when a host of variables are taken into consideration, such as genetic risks and socioeconomic factors, the real divorce still accounts for around 66 percent of the increased risk of divorce faced by children of divorced parents. “This means the transmission is not due to psychological or substance abuse problems that are passed from parents to the offspring. It’s something very unique about the separation of one’s parents. The societal implications are very important because divorce is such a painful experience for both adults and children. This further suggests that interventions specifically targeted at the consequences of divorce are important for our society,” D’Onofrio said.

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Oklahoma ‘covenant marriages’ aim to lower divorce rate

The Daily O’Collegian has posted an interesting article questioning a new bill introduced into the Oklahoma legislature that recommends couples who are to be married go through premarital counselling, enter a so-called ‘covenant marriage’, and then be unable to divorce based on grounds of incompatibilty.
It doesn’t exclude other grounds for divorce, such as abuse, and presumably actual adultery, but it does suggest that couples who have undergone this counselling are somehow immune from problems later on in their marriages.

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One in five UK couples on verge of break-up, survey shows

Research by the InsideDivorce.com web site suggests that 1 in 5 British couples are on the verge of a break-up.

Nearly half (44%) of married people surveyed say that their sex lives have decreased while a further one in ten married couples are having no sex at all. These figures are particularly worrying for men, with ‘lack of sex’ being cited as the single biggest factor in relationship breakdown.

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Managing divorce anger

Anger is not a gift, and it is normal for a relationship to have this kind of twist, but for couples who are going for divorce, this emotion is often anything but healthy.

It is a special kind of anger that usually hasn’t been experienced before.

When anger and divorce is combined, it’s often treated as a misguided means of hanging on to a failed marriage. For many people that really long for company, a bad relationship is better than no relationship at all.

Divorce anger lets people to punish their ex as often as possible, while keeping an ongoing “bitter” relationship.

It’s a situation that leaves both partners in the long and winding divorce world of growth obstruction and self-awareness.

Some people really keep their anger so secretly that their rage takes over their whole lives, affecting all their thoughts and actions.

They weigh every action to see how much harm it will bring on their ex.

Divorce anger is often expressed through the legal process itself.
During this process, it is important to remember that your lawyer is your adviser, not your friend.

Releasing anger to your ex through the legal process invariably leads to prolonged, emotional proceedings that will ultimately leave you, and of course, the family resources out.

Using the legal process as a way to express your anger is a bad idea for a couple of key reasons; it is the wrong way, and it is very expensive.

The legal divorce process itself tends to add fuel to both parties’ anger.

Often times it leads to dividing property and trying to prove your case for custody or support.

So how can you cope with this new and intense anger? The key lies in understanding its roots, where did you first fall and finding positive ways to express the hurt, disappointment, and loss that both party is feeling now as you proceed through separation.

Anger can really be a very healthy and positive tool for change, and it has a lot of energy compared to happiness when released
but if we use it destructively, all we do is destory our mood and keep miseries coming.

Final word is, people have to learn to have anger work for them positively, not negatively.