By Ginny M
Nov 2, 2006
Rules When Exchanging Custody of Your Child
Sad though it is, there are many separated and divorced couples all over the world. It is a painful fact that teh estranged partners have to deal with. It is often worse for the children who are left with a situation commonly called a broken home.
It is unfair to the children to be deprived of their mother or father’s presence simply because the parents no longer get along. It actually stresses the children to suddenly find themselves deprived of a loving relationship with whichever parent does not have custody of their lives. This being the case, we as civilized people try to give our children time with their other parent.
Here are some ground rules for parents in this situation to keep conflict to a minimum and keep the peace between all of you.
- No matter what your differences, treat each other with respect. Talk politely with each other. Avoid swearing, cursing or raising your voice. Your childwill appreciate it and it will be easier on both of you.
- Make sure the schedule is clear. Give the other parent the benefit of knowing exactly what time the child or children will be picked up and what time they will be returned. This courtesy allows your ex to manage her schedule and your kids to be ready for your arrival.
- When you pick up your child, stay out of your ex’s home. Pick them up at the door. Don’t strain your ex’s ability to be courteous. Just be glad that he or she is being agreeable.
- Even if it’s a short visit with your kid, don’t hang out at your ex’s home. Take your kid out to to the park or for a quick meal. No lazing on the couch or rough housing on the floor.
- Please bring your child back on time. In the opposite situation, you’d be panicking if your child soesn’t arrive when expected.
Most importantly, keep your child’s needs in mind. Your disagreements are between you and should not be made in front of your children. Allow your kids to enjoy having their loved ones near (no matter how your dislike your ex).