Getting proper perspective on marriage responsibilities

Here’s an interesting article on getting the right ‘balance of power’ in a marriage relationship.

It rightfully states that a couple must equally own a the relationship: there must be shared responsibility over family decisions.

It also challenges the misinterpretation of a Christian value that the man is the head of the household.

Both beliefs can co-exist, because being ‘head of the household’ does not mean having overall control or domination.

“I can’t tell you how unhappy this lopsided thinking has made many of the women in my congregation,” said Tim. “They come to our counseling center so stressed out, they want to run for their lives. ”

Tim openly tells his congregation that any husband will miss out on a great relationship if he treats his wife as a follower all of the time.

“Women come up with wonderful ideas for any family,” said Tim. “I’ve got some Southern macho types in my congregation that don’t know what they’re missing.

“Their wives are so dominated, these poor women won’t suggestion a new restaurant for fear of upsetting their husbands. And, these wives can’t mention a new place for a vacation without getting voted down. Their husbands will never know the fun of trying new things. ”

Of course, we all know of marriages in which the wife calls most of the shots. There are plenty of dominating women out there in our society.

It’s really sad, though, when the power balance between an adult couple is not in place. One of the marriage partners is forced to be victimized-or risk a divorce.

Read the full article: Power balance in a marriage should be 50-50