Men should pay attention to the ‘little stuff’
June 4, 2005 by andymerrett
Dr Bob Gottfried provides advice to men who have applied the “don’t sweat the small stuff” paradigm to their romantic relationships.
He has recently launched a free online “crash communications course” available at www.deeperdimension.com.
The doctor‚Äôs prescription: follow the “4 A‚Äôs” of effective communication, and avoid a fifth “A”.
Attend. Pay attention to how your partner feels, and encourage her to discuss her emotions.
Acknowledge. Listen to what she is saying, and acknowledge what she is feeling.
Accept. Accept how she is feeling, without trying to change her mood or her mind.
Affirm. Tell her you support her. Ask if you can help, and follow her directions. If she says, “I‚Äôd rather deal with it myself,” accept and affirm her decision.
Advice. Avoid unsolicited advice, especially when given in the form of “should” - e.g., “You should tell your friend what you really think of her.” This is usually interpreted as criticism, judgment and arrogance.
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Men and the ‘little things’
Andy Merrit wrote about some hints and tips for men via Bob Gotfried. [Andy’s comments aren’t working and we couldn’t find an email for him!?!]
The doctor’s prescription, follow the “4 A’s” of effective commu…
I think men are biologically so different from women that we sometimes don’t understand each other. Women tend to pay attention to everything. The words in a conversation, how they are said, and they also tend to interprate everything we as guys say and do.