Even grown-ups need their dads

The bonds between fathers and their adult children are a crucial part of a strong society, in which fathers complement mothers in the role of nurturers, guides in life and sources of wisdom, Michael Ferrari, University of Delaware associate professor of individual and family studies, says.

“Fathers are undeniably symbols of strength,” Ferrari says. Adults, as well as children, benefit from a strong and reliable bond with their fathers, according to Ferrari.

“The autonomy sought by a child in the stage of adolescence and departing the parental home does not necessarily signify any real reduction in the attachment to a parent,” Ferrari says. “Research [shows] it is not uncommon to see at least 85 percent of adult children report very meaningful and very close relationships with their parents. Most still live relatively near at least one parent and most maintain very regular contact.”

Relationships between adults and their fathers are strengthened by the amount of time they spend together, Ferrari says. However, Ferrari says that the failure of a father to recognize his grown child as an adult can lead to serious conflict. The relationship needs to progress to the point where father and child are relating as adults.

‚ÄúFathers, just like mothers, or even grandparents for that matter, must guard against silly snags,‚Äù Ferrari, a father of four girls and three boys between the ages of 15-25, says. ‚ÄúWe can’t live their lives for them.‚Äù

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